“… Very insightful projection to dealing with people’s weaknesses! Indeed, we have to resist the internal force to magnify the weakness, we have to think openly on ways to maximize the goods and leave or get rid of the bads. I tend to believe that we can not keep developing everyone on everything, instead, leaders (as well parents) have to focus on the strenghts and shed no-light on the weaknesses. Nice Articulation Peter, Thanks”-Mouaz
Little Johnny comes home one day, looks down at his feet, and gives you his report card. You smile at him as you open it up and look inside. Then your smile disappears when you see the F in math. You also see an A (English) and two Bs (history and science). You look down at little Johnny and ask, “What happened in math, Johnny? Why did you get this F?”
We want our kids to be successful at everything they do. And if they’re not good at something, we ask why they failed. We tell them to work harder at it. Understand what went wrong, focus, and fix it.
But that’s a mistake. The wrong focus. If you dwell on Johnny’s failure, on his weakness, you’ll be setting him up for a life of struggle and low self-esteem while reducing his chances of reaching his full potential.
Also, as a side note, you won’t fix his weakness. You’ll just reinforce it.
The problem with a report card is that it measures all students against the same criteria, which ignores that each student is different with unique talents, distinct likes and dislikes, and particular aspirations. And when we see the F on little Johnny’s report card, it’s easy for us to get distracted from our primary job: to help him deeply enjoy his life and fulfill his potential by developing and deriving pleasure from his unique talents.